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about

who is theeblaquedahlia

The experiences i offer are deliberately crafted to move with both structure and fluidity in mind. While not exhaustive, areas i frequently engage include:

My specialties

  • Impact play (floggers, paddles, canes, crops, hands)

  • wax play

  • Sensation Play

  • needle play

control & restraint

  • Bondage (rope & non-rope)

  • Breath play

  • Tease & denial

  • chasitity

Power, ritual & identity

  • objectification

  • domestic servitude & tasking

  • degradation & humiliation

  • goddexx worship

  • identity-based play

  • Spiritual-based play

Embodiment & presence

  • Sensual domination

  • Grounding touch and body-based connection

  • Guided stillness, relaxation, and meditation

  • Nervous system regulation and presence-building

These experiences are guided, intentional, and exist within the structure of the dynamic. they are not romantic or partner-based.

This list is not exhaustive. If there is something you are curious about or would like to explore, i invite you to inquire. what we can create together is not limited to what is written here.

my work

I am an experience designer, sensual ritualist, and architect of surrender. my work lives at the intersection of sensation, structure, and emotional deptth. where softness and edge collide and curiosity is met with clarity.

As a queer, non-binary practitioner, I am aware of how impactful my presence in this this work and I do not take it lightly. I move with an awareness of how power, identity, and embodiment shape the ways we experience desire, safety, and connection. That awareness informs everything I create, ensuring that what I offer is not only immersive but grounded, affirming, and deeply transformative.

Whether through guided exploration, structured power-exchange, or sensory-driven play, we will co-create an experience that invite you to slow down, pay attention, and fully arrive in your body.

My approach is deeply intentional and rooted in consent, communication, and awareness. I prioritize curating containers that feel botth grounded and expansive, spaces where you can explore without shame or judgment and surrender without losing yourself in the process.

I am particularly intrigued by the ways sensation, power, and emotion intersect.

How the body responds to control, anticipation, and release…

how we can use those responses to deepen connection, understanding, and trust.

What we may explore together

my work has taken shape through workshops, performances, and curated spaces nationwide always with a focus on making kink more accessible, thoughtful, and deeply felt.

beyond private experiences, i am a bdsm educator, event producer, and community builder.

I co-run chicago’s qtbipoc exclusive member’s only org, kinkyblackhouse and serve as director of engagement & education at Meetatjewels, memphis’ only kinkbnb & bipoc exclusive kink org.

Beyond the Scene

Outside of sessions, I enjoy:

  • Good weed & smooth tequila

  • Food that’s actually worth sitting down for—upscale dining, tasting menus, and hidden gems

  • Music, live shows, and immersive experiences

  • Books, documentaries, and adult animation

  • Being a hobby enthusiast—trying new things just because I can

  • making skin and body care for the spiritual girls, gays, and theys

  • Well-curated spaces—boutique hotels, aesthetically pleasing environments, and places that feel intentional

  • Spa days, body care, and indulgent self-maintenance

  • Shopping—whether it’s clothes, beauty, or something I didn’t know I needed until I saw it

  • Travel and experiences that feel expansive, worth remembering, and taken care of

  • Nature… but comfortably (glamping > camping, always)

  • Sitting by water, feet in, minding my business

How to please me

I appreciate being engaged with intention, generosity, and attention to detail.

For those who feel called to offer beyond the structure of a session, there are many ways to show appreciation, devotion, and care.

Personal Tastes

I’m drawn to items that feel sensual, intentional, and a little indulgent.

This includes:

  • Fragrances in all forms—perfumes, colognes, body butters, oils, lotions, soaps, dusting powders

  • Home and sensory elements—candles, incense, room sprays, wallflowers

  • Kink implements, sex tools, and well-crafted fetishwear

  • Clothing, shoes, bags, and accessories that feel like me

  • Soft things… yes, including stuffies

Experiences & Growth

I enjoy expanding into new interests and experiences.

Offerings in this realm may include:

  • Classes and workshops (pole, pottery, photography, wine-making, and beyond)

  • Creative or skill-based experiences that feed my curiosity

  • Opportunities that allow me to explore, learn, and indulge in new hobbies

Lifestyle & Upgrades

I value quality and ease in the tools I use day to day.

  • Contributions toward personal tech (laptop, phone, etc.)

  • Items that support my work, creativity, or lifestyle

If you were wondering what I like… Now you know. I like to be well taken care of. Hopefully That gives you a good idea of how to show your appreciation. If you need even more hand-holding, just refer to my Wishlists.